Humility before honor

hospitality sign

“Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.

Well that’s not always the case, is it?

I just learned an interesting lesson about people.

I’m going to my NLP Certification Training in Austin in a few days, and I’m on a very short budget. Austin is many hours away from Atlanta but I’m taking a couple of buses to get to my destination and couch surfing because I know that this is an opportunity that will change my life. Getting my certification will empower me to change people’s lives in a positive way through speaking engagements and personal coaching.

Marla (my girlfriend) and I (her way before she meets me) have hosted a lot of strangers on our couch. People we don’t even know, from different parts of the world. And where I come from, hospitality is the #1 rule. Yet, it’s interesting to see that so many people don’t abide by those rules or simply don’t care.

Karma, giving what you need, receiving what you put in, caring for people, loving others as you love yourself.. all those rules apply no matter what your religion or spiritual beliefs are. It’s interesting to me that so called “friends” whether virtual or not, get offended when you ask to crash or will not even bother responding to a message and just leave the conversation. Yet, a complete stranger will offer his couch. Which is how I found a place to stay (

Being polite and considerate will take you far in life. The opposite will keep you stuck at a certain level no matter how hard you work and how smart you are. Everything we do is about people and that’s a universal truth. You never know who you bring into your house but it’s always a blessing to be hospitable. If you only care to ‘connect’ and ‘network’ with people who seem that they will bring something or benefit to your interests, then you may one day spit on a stranger who may be the deciding factor in a big deal that will change your life.

Whether you’re in a business, own a business, are self-employed or simply looking for a job, it’s important to learn that humility comes before honor and that arrogance and rudeness will move you backwards and never forward. When you have a genuine interest and care about people, then everything else will come to you; and if everything to you is money, today better than ever, you should learn that money comes from people. Rich or poor, they’re the ones who have to hand it to you.


P.S. If you’re in Austin or around Austin, and would like to meet up, send me a message and we can do lunch :)

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