Have you ever heard people say “Dare to dream!”
Well I’ll be the first one today to tell you stop doing it. Say that sentence out loud, stop reading this before continuing, and notice or write down everything that comes to mind. Your physiology, internal visuals, feelings, thoughts, and anything else you can notice. Then keep reading.
What does the sentence presuppose?
I’m not sure if you’ve noticed or not, but if you look closely, your feelings and visuals will take a form of overcoming a challenge, running a race, breaking through obstacles, etc. If you don’t pay attention, you will think “yea, what’s the big deal then?” The big deal is that “Dare to dream” presupposes that dreaming is a challenge. A dare is a challenge that has to be overcome in order to prove something. Most people who dare to dream do it to prove something. To themselves or to others. Think about it.
Every single word you use matters!
Children are the best dreamers and we can learn a lot from them. They don’t let “reality” get in the way of their dreams because they understand to some extent that their dream creates their reality and not the other way around. Until at some point they stop dreaming to conform to society’s norm of “being realistic.”
Dreaming is not only easy, but it’s the best thing to do in order to achieve the results you need in your life. When you tell yourself “dare to dream”, you communicate to your mind that dreaming is hard, takes effort, and that it comes from a place of fear. And your mind, having the best intentions to protect you, will do its best to help you avoid pain and seek pleasure and comfort. And all of a sudden, you’ll be thinking “okay,… I dare to dream that I’ll make a million dollars within 2 years.” Just by using the word “dare” your stomach tightens and your mind goes “that’s not realistic but we can TRY to play pretend and see what happens…” Meaning, you don’t fully commit to it.
Your internal communication is directly related to the goals you achieve in life. And you want to pay attention to it. Become your own best friend by communicating positively with yourself. The first step is by changing the words you use because they do affect your reality. Most people think that they use their words to describe the world around them, but it’s the other way around. The words you use create the world around you. Use them to be empowered and to empower others!
How can you start noticing changes in your results?
1. Notice the words you use and use only empowering words. Words start as thoughts; you can’t always control your thoughts but you can notice them by the words you use, then you can go back and adjust your thoughts and beliefs according to the results you want to achieve.
2. Notice your physiology as you dream of the things you want to achieve. If something is not right, go back to noticing your words (these can be internal words too). Write down how you communicate with yourself and notice your thoughts. We communicate externally more with our body language than with anything else. Being aware of our thoughts and words is one thing; being aware of our they affect our non-verbal communication and our physiology is powerful.
If you have any comment or question, I’d love to hear them. Either comment below or send me a message!
In the meantime, stop daring to dream and just boldly dream the things that you want! It’s your divine right! Otherwise you wouldn’t have been created with an imagination. Think about it ;)